You never really know who you’re going to meet at networking events. The people you talk with could lead you to your next job, or end up trying to date you. I thought I’d use this jammed packed post (with a side note about California vs. D.C living) to describe 3 encounters of people I met during a Wednesday YPNdc happy hour, followed with tips for a better networking experience – GET OUT THERE, TALK, BE POSITIVE, AND REMEMBER TO FOLLOW UP!
This will hopefully give you new hope if you’re in a job searching/networking slump, or give you a new outlook on the D.C job scene. Please join the conversation and give any tips as you see fit. Sharing knowledge is a powerful thing.
Be the person people gravitate towards!
Encounter #1
“Environmental Policy Guy – I want to live on a Commune”
Tip: Pick a warm up, someone to get you in the talking mode.
This for me was “Environmental Policy Guy” – He sat near the walkway of the bar, leaning on a stool. Blonde hair, no suite or tie, and sipping on a beer with an Orange. I was intrigued, and ready to see if I could get his disinterested face to smile! Our conversation went a little something like this…
“So do you come to these events often?” – I know what a creative line!
“No this is my first time, and I’m a little confused as to what is actually supposed to happen here. It seems we’re all here to network, yet none of us have jobs.” A valid point, though after he left I was able to gain 3 job leads.
“Ya, well a lot of people don’t, but you have to sift your way to the people who do. So where are you from?”
“California”- typical, the first guy I talk to is from California. “I graduated from the Monterrey Institute for International Studies with an M.A in Environmental Policy.”
The conversation continued as I saw how unique this person was (and a bit socially awkward), he told me he wasn’t sure if he liked this city. He then went on to say he wanted to go live in the woods somewhere and be self-sufficient.
“I’m sorry, it’s so loud in here. Did you just say you want to go live alone in the woods?”
“I know! This is why I barely go out. I hate being blasted with pop culture hits telling us what to think and eliminating the possibility for real human interaction and intelligent thinking. It’s like they’re telling you not to think for yourself and listen to the music, while you buy drinks and conform to the norm. No no, not alone in the woods, like on a commune or something.”
Ok so, if I didn’t already know it, this guy was extreme, however, very intelligent and interesting. I love meeting people out of the ordinary like this with different life experiences. I impressed him when I told him I lived on a farm, with chickens, pigs and horses. I could only claim the horses, though I did say I grew a garden (even though most of it has been eaten by rabbits, deer and groundhogs!) He SMILED! Mission accomplished.
Before he left I learned about the policy in Great Britain that ordered restaurant and grocery stores to poison the food they threw away everyday. After killing several people it was finally outlawed – can you believe this was the 90’s!?
Surprise! He has a blog, you can follow it here,
http://www.onsecondthought2007.blogspot.com
Encounter #2
“California Girl and Friend”
Tip: Make friends, connect with people like yourself, they may have good tips about the job search you haven’t thought of yet.
Her name was Tanaaz. She was from L.A and graduated from San Diego State before moving to D.C. She said she’s living in a pretty dodgy side of town according to her, but her rent is $850 (which is the cheapest i’ve heard for living in the heart of the city) and probably the reason why she feels unsafe walking home at night. She clued me into an environmental fellowship job, and we discussed working at the World Bank, which is the top ranks in the international development world and everyone knows that working there opens a lot of doors. My dream!
Soon her friend (who moved to D.C from San Diego State as well) joined our conversation. Once the shock and awe of them both being in the same city, and the same networking event wore off, we discussed the D.C scene. We all seemed to come to the same conclusion, get in – work your ass off for initiatives important to you – and get out! This place is no place for balanced lifestyles (well West Coast/Australian version of balanced – my version). This is especially important to me because in the long run I’d rather be a good mom and a good wife over getting lost in a career and letting the other 2 slip. Of course people can manage all 3, but I think expectations for American woman are far too high these days. We’re expected to do it all, and a lot of times without family support, which inevitably leads to unhappy lifestyles (in my opinion).
Side Note: Interested in Southern California Living? How does it compare to D.C and Virginia?
I asked about L.A living, mentioning how I wanted to move West Coast (once my stint in D.C plays out). She talked about the traffic, the superficial people, and said how it’s a rarity to have conversations that mean much. Surprise! No, nothing I haven’t already heard, but everyone has a different story depending on who you talk to.
“What about the Spanish culture side of things?” I ask because my newly acquired Mexican friends in D.C say there are more Mexicans in L.A than Mexico City and I’m a big fan!
“Oh well if you’re going for that side of things then it’s fine. Actually, the cultural side of things is great, you’d probably enjoy it. But you did mention that you weren’t interested in people who put so much pride into materialistic possessions or who try to impress you with those possessions, and there is a lot of that in L.A.”
Obviously she hasn’t ventured too far out of the dodgy side of town she’s living in. Georgetown? Anyone been there? Georgetown and other areas near the Potomac river, were even too expensive for my Dad to buy into 20 years ago! Now they go for millions. From my impression, people here replace material possessions (though still prevalent) with Education status, who they’re connected to, and their career.
The Virginia valley, Loudoun County where I live, while a more relaxed scene than D.C, is the richest county in the U.S and is home to some pretty ‘status quo’ people. My family has been here since the 40’s when my grandfather bought a small farm house with over 40 acres to farm cattle. Since then, the county has rapidly expanded, and became one of the fastest growing and expensive counties in the U.S.
Here, we are not unfamiliar with big names and big bank accounts. The family who started B.E.T owns a farm here and contributed 3 million dollars to my k-8 grade school for a theater (the daughter graduated in my class) Who else? The Mars family (from the Mars Bars empire), the Firestones (Firestone tires) and the actor Robert Redfern, all live very close. Oh and the owner of the Redskins! Here, it’s all about land, local farming, wineries, and horses.
Anyone have any more tips about California living? L.A? Best places to visit? Beach scene? Or has anyone experienced the Virginia/D.C scene? Interesting people you encountered in the area?
Anyway, I digress. On to the end of my night.
Encounter #3
“The Hustler”
Tip: Never let anyone make you think you have to be anyone but yourself to get a job! (Unless you have a horrible personality which turns people off…then you may want to change some things).
Now that I’ve made my rounds and collected cards like they were candy, I offer my time to the less deserving. Yes, the person who TRIED to kiss me before I ran for the hills, and his blabbering friend. Why talk to him? Well after a few glasses of wine, I just don’t care. As long as he refrains from hitting on me, everything should be fine.
His friend, bald and seemed to always spit when he spoke, tried to get me to start ‘hustling him’ (which I guess means offering him something in return for his information?) What was his information? Temp agencies! Yup that’s it. Umm no thank you, I’m good on that.
“I’m sorry what do you do again?”
He worked at an international publication performing editing work. I asked him if he traveled outside the country before, he said no, he’s from NJ and has only been to the East Coast of the U.S. Really? And you work for an international publication without any knowledge of the World outside the U.S? That’s scary. I’m not exactly sure how the conversation went, but it was something like this…
“Blah blah blah…international travel…blah blah blah…global perspective….blah blah blah… M.A degrees, blah blah Australia, blah blah and some more BLAH…stop hustling and start gaining life experiences”
Guy who tried to kiss me, “Wow I’ve never seen you be so authoritative before.” Really? The guy only met me one other time…and it did not end well!
“Well, in a job interview you have to be very persistent and confident in your skills to do the job well and convince them to hire you”…Not to mention I’m not trying to get a job out of this person, and I know we’d never be friends, so why not say what I want to say?
Bald Guy, “Wow I can tell you’re smart!”
I seriously don’t even remember what I said, all I know is I said it with conviction. I’m not going to bow down to anyone for temp agencies, nor am I going to bow down to anyone for a job.
So get to steppin, and PLEASE stop spitting in my drink!!
Note: D.C is a POWERFUL city, full of VERY POWERFUL people that influence the global political agenda. The work ethic here can be ferocious. BE CONFIDENT, and BE STRONG when selling yourself. Be prepared to embody these values to survive the job search if they don’t already come naturally. Also, it’s important to know your audience and to know when it’s important to make these qualities known.
So What Can You Take Home From This Post?
The night, overall, was a successful networking event. I came home with a couple job leads, and avoided any awkward moments. The take home for those who are not so keen to network and are still stuck solely applying for jobs online, GET OUT THERE! Not only is it a break from the daily grind of editing resumes and cover letters, and searching through every job site you know, but it’s also a way to make friends in a new city. Clue into how the city really works and what others are doing that may be successful for you.
My advice, slap on the dreaded name tag and start talking! Get peoples cards, and FOLLO UP. You can’t go wrong going to as many events as possible, but remember, don’t make it all about finding a job. Be the person people want to talk to. SMILE and exude positive energy, and don’t get frustrated if nothing comes out of it (hey at least you got happy hour deals and if you’re lucky, free food!). The point is to build relationships and continue those relationships throughout your time in the city. This takes awhile and requires A LOT of follow up chats! You never know who could lead you to that golden opportunity.
1. GET OUT THERE – Get yourself to networking events with people in the industry you want to break into
2. START TALKING- It’s not enough just to be there and wait for people to talk to you, go out and introduce yourself! Seek information.
3. BE POSITIVE – I can’t stress this enough, you have to be positive. People can read your energy. If you’re in a bad mood, don’t go or get out of it fast!
4. FOLLOW UP -When you get someone’s card, be sure to follow up with them on the conversation you had at the event and mention any job leads you discussed. Also, connect with them on social media sites like twitter and Linkedin. Seek out successful, like-minded people.
GOOD LUCK!
Anybody else have any suggestions or tips on networking? Please share!